Sunday, September 23, 2012

Answers to Your Questions

So we’ve had some follow up questions to some of our posts and thought we’d take this time to try to answer them.

What happened in July?

Other than some cryptic references to a “traffic accident,” we apparently weren’t very clear. While crossing the street on a Sunday afternoon to go to the market before a friend came to visit, Kiyomi was hit by a motorcycle. Clearly she’s okay. Jack was just a step ahead. The oncoming car had slowed for us to cross, but - typical of motorcycle taxis here - the bike swerved around the car without looking to see why it might be stopping, and slammed into Kiyomi. She was thrown to the ground, literally stunned for a moment. The passenger on the bike found another bike, while the rider sat and muttered something about whiteman not knowing how to cross the street. Kiyomi informed him that since he’d just hit her, he really ought to apologize. An old pa, who’d seen the whole thing, yelled at the okada boy to “get off that bike and make sure she’s okay!” The guy then came and made many apologies and bought Kiyomi a bottle of water while she and Jack made sure everything still moved in the appropriate and expected way. We continued on with our shopping after a few more moments to catch our breath. By the time we got home, though, Kiyomi was limping and couldn’t make much use of her right arm, which had taken much of the force of the fall.

We learned later that, had we gotten information about the driver, we could have made a complaint with the police and tried to have his license revoked. But drivers here are so reckless and dangerous, it never occurred to us that there might be some legal guidance around their behavior, let alone penalties.

Kiyomi could not use her arm for a month, and Peace Corps recommended physical therapy, but since Kiyomi’s dad was visiting at that time, she decided to delay until he left, and now she only has occasional twinges of discomfort in her elbow.

Two days later, in the hours before sunrise, we had clothes stolen off our front porch, where they’d been left to dry. We’d left clothes on our porch to dry overnight the entire preceding year and never had any issue, but now we only dry clothes outside if we’re home, and otherwise, our office has turned into a laundry room. We made complaints with the police and gendarmes with the help of our amazing regional office manager, and they each sent someone out to wander around the yard and nod. The police even had someone in custody at one time, but nothing more has ever been said of the matter, and we have to assume our things are gone for good.

Needless to say, it was an incredibly demotivating time, and we really wanted someone to talk us into staying. But even that realization was good for us, even though no one ever did talk us into it.

Do you regret “Peace Corpsing”?

No. We would do it again. We discuss sometimes whether, knowing what we do now, we would have been so quick to accept the assignment to Cameroon (Mexico is our most favorite place in the world, perhaps somewhere in Latin America would have been nice…), but we will never wonder what would have happened, and where we would be in life now, if we had stayed in Pittsburgh – and we always would have wondered, and regretted, if we hadn’t joined Peace Corps. We both believe strongly in the benefits of overseas travel and think no education is complete without it. Even less than ideal experiences are importantly shaping to a global mindset and an inclusive worldview – and whether you like it or not, we are part of a global community now, and if you’re a Christian, you don’t get the luxury of not liking it, you’re obliged to take an interest in the world. So we’re here, not liking this part of the world all the time, certainly, but we would do it again. Peace Corps gives you the opportunity not only to visit a place, but to live like a local and experience a different way of life. Part of our frustrations, we’ve speculated, may be due to an overly strong emphasis on the development part of our job – from our own American work ethic, to the subtle and not-so-subtle judgment, real and imagined, of other volunteers – whereas the reality is that the development work is only a part of why we’re here. Peace Corps has three goals, and sustainable training and capacity building is one of them – the others are: living here, experiencing the place, the food, the people, the shopping, the cooking, the handwashing, the life; and telling other Americans about it. Which isn’t to say that we’re not busy. Our part-time work with our host organizations has left time available for other work in the community, and we find ourselves running into scheduling issues and needing to tell people we can’t take up another work effort right now.

If you don’t like it, why do you stay?

We’re not sure. We do know that we didn’t want to be talked out of leaving, but into staying. We know that we could Early Terminate our service at any time. If we wanted an excuse, we could be sent home at the first indication of pregnancy. But we haven’t done those things, even though in moments of frustration we’ve both declared ourselves ready to call Yaounde and get on the next flight out. Usually at that time the other will recommend seeing how things stand the next day before making that call, and we always decide to stay. We also know that if for some reason we were to be administratively separated, we would fight it at every step. We want to come home, we miss our friends and family and way of life. But we don’t want to leave just yet. Call us romantics, call us idealists, call us fools – we are creatures of resurgent hope.

We remember having a dumpling feast with our ESL students in Pittsburgh, learning about Japan, Kazakhstan, and two different areas of China, the discovery that all three places have very similar ways of making and enjoying dumplings. Our world was expanded and improved by the friendship of those people, even though it was a relatively short time and relatively small things that we enjoyed together. So we hope for the small things here.

Have your opinions of Africa changed?

Yes and no. Everything we are taught in the States about “Africa” is wrong in Cameroon. We can’t speak to the rest of the continent – it could swallow the US three times over and still have room. We know that geopolitically the African continent has been sorely wronged by the Western world throughout history, and believe that all promised aid and debt relief should be provided in the most expedient way. But people can feed a family without difficulty on $2 a day here; and the kids running around in ratty clothing are doing so because they’re running around on red clay and their moms don’t want them to ruin their good clothes; and the babies with no pants are toilet training; and people are more likely to be sick with the effects of obesity, to suffer diabetes and heart disease, than to die of starvation. The problems here seem to stem, not from endemic poverty, but from an over abundance of free aid that’s undermined the agency, independence, creativity and mastery of an entire nation. So we think the best thing that could be done for Cameroon is to leave it alone. To back out and stop international funding, once amounts already promised have been met. Let Cameroon learn the value of its own people, identify its own solutions in context, develop its resources and set its own path to full modernization. Send people to provide training, but stop throwing money at the problems here, stop handing over fully developed projects deemed necessary by the international community, stop building infrastructure – instead, teach, and let Cameroon make those decisions about what is needed for Cameroon. Hand in hand with that is to also stop sending missionaries to live on American salaries. This reinforces the idea of “rich whiteman” who lives in a big house on a hill with no real connection to the daily lives of the people they’re supposed to serve. While well-meaning, the influx of funds and lack of haggling makes it much more difficult for those of us who are living on the local economy, and the wholesale funding of efforts and provision of material goods is both counter to good development standards and counter to Christian ideals.

What are you working on now?

We have been busy recently! Kiyomi continues to work on staff development training with ACMS, and recently began work with another NGO, HEDECS, where she’ll be supporting development of several programs and coordinating a review of the strategic plan and restructuring of the board. Jack has got the computer lab at the Delegation up and running and has two colleagues trained to continue with it. He’s also been “freelancing” as an IT consultant to various organizations. Together we’ve started working with another NGO and the Delegation, and two other volunteers (the new married couple here) on a series of traveling teacher training seminars that take us around the North West Region. We’ve also begun collaborating with another volunteer and a local landowner on the development of an ecotourism business outside of Bamenda. That’s all kept us pretty engaged, but we hope to be able to also help with the development of a local library soon, and Kiyomi has had interest from some women’s groups in entrepreneurship and business classes. We expect that will see us at least to the end of the year, and after New Year we hope to do some more travel around the country as we head into our last six months here. Regrettably, we had to give up the literacy class for the time being. Over the summer while we were away from it, it transitioned into a reading practice class (certainly still an important effort) with only a few students, that did not warrant three volunteers, and other opportunities needed that time.

Visitors

So Kiyomi’s dad came to visit in August, and we all had a nice time. It is great to feel that we’re still connected to the lives we left back home, and that the world, for all its vastness, is not so big that we can’t get around it to have a bit of that life here. It did lead us to a bit of compare-and-contrast with when Kiyomi’s mom and partner visited. We hope our insights will be helpful.

Have visitors come after your one year mark at post. Mom and Curt came in April, and there were things we just didn’t know. People with access to private cars, for example; but also, how to hire a private car, or where to direct it once we had it. We toured a nearby monastery with Dad, an outing we just didn’t know how to arrange before. Also, we didn’t know where to go hiking until this summer.

Go to Kribi if you want to go to the beach. In fact, go to Hotel du Phar, walk to the fish market, stall number 6, eat your fill of delicious, fresh seafood prepared four feet from your table with a view of the water. Go to the marina and order lasagna or brick oven pizza. Frolic in the waves on the hotel’s private beach. Wrap up the evening with a beverage on the oceanside deck.

Don’t go to Limbe. The botanical gardens are nice for a stroll, and the Wildlife Centre, or “zoo,” is not comparable to any American zoo, though all the primates are rescued or born there. You can do both in a day. Downbeach, Limbe’s fish market, has fish, but no other seafood to speak of, and a view of what might be a pretty beach if every inch of it wasn’t covered in trash. You’ll be lucky to find hot water in a room unless you go to one of the resorts on the outskirts of town. Same for a swimmable beach. Getting there by taxi will cost you dearly, and so will eating all your meals at the resort.

If you do decide to go to Limbe, several volunteers have recommended Madison Park for a beach camping experience, but you’re well away from town, so bring food.

Go hiking! At least in the northwest, you can take a taxi, or walk out to the base of any of the foothills and spend your day hiking in some gorgeous scenery. Just go through the fields until you hit a cow path, and the mountains are yours.

Three weeks seems like a good amount of time to visit. Travel anywhere is going to take a full day, and two weeks (or less) is going to make for a rushed trip. Three weeks gives you time to get to post, travel a bit, and hang out for a bit.

Don’t try to do too much. We know some people really like to get up with the sun, go all day, and into the night, in order to “get their money’s worth,” but visiting family aren’t likely to be used to Cameroon travel, so go easy on them. Take a day to rest and reflect here and there. Let’s face it, most of our friends and relations had never heard of Cameroon before we came here – and guess what they came here to see? Let them get a taste of the normal pace of your day to day life. They won’t be bored, they’re in Africa!

Do take them up on the offer to be pack mules! It’s like getting a care package with a loved one inside. Hugs AND Hershey’s kisses!

Tell the truth. That’s what we try to do on this blog, but we know there’s a temptation to gloss over things in e-mails and calls home – or you’re just so happy to be talking to someone back home, that it makes you forget every struggle. But part of our “mission” here as Peace Corps Volunteers is to share our experience with our communities back in the States. Travel is a great thing, seeing how other people live is so important to making informed and intelligent decisions on things as wide ranging as what restaurant to have dinner at, to whether mahogany furniture is in fact such a good thing, to how you vote or urge your representatives. As Christians, we believe God gave us, as a species, stewardship over this savage garden we find ourselves in, and seeing and experiencing it is essential to knowing what that entails. But not everyone can travel, and certainly no one can travel everywhere, and visitors are only here a short time, so it’s important to be real and be honest about the good as well as the bad.

Eat everything. Well, mostly. Don’t eat bushmeat. It’s not sustainable, it exposes humans to all kind of viruses we have no defense against, it leads to habitat degradation, we could go on. But do drag your guests out to sample as much sustainable local fare as you can. Bring them to eat your favorite dishes, and bring them to try the stuff you’ve had the opportunity to discover you don’t like as well. The more educated and varied your palate, the more nutrition you get, the more options you have to answer the question, “what is food?”

Have guests. We know it won’t be possible for everyone, but do encourage your friends and family to visit if they can. Having someone from your past life see where you are now is the best way to recharge your batteries, open your eyes again to the place surrounding you, and not feel like such an alien. They won’t understand - how could they? – but they’ll have a better idea than any amount of e-mail, phone calls or letters home can convey, and just as we as volunteers are stretched and challenged, our guests will be too.

Wednesday, August 1, 2012

A year later

One year ago we were about to launch what has been an interesting journey to the other side of the world.  It’s hard to believe, the time has gone so fast.  We’ve picked up some French, learned how to get around and get things done Cameroon-style, and, we hope, started to have an impact with the skills and knowledge we’ve shared with our host organizations.  It seems like it really does take a year to find your stride in a place so different from home.  We’ve just recently started exploring Ntarinkon market, rather than going to Bamenda Main Market, and found a really good place for soya just a short walk from our house, and started hiking the surrounding foothills.  There’s some sense of regret that we missed out on these things while we were figuring out how to buy furniture and bed sheets, and arguing with our landlord, and trying to sort out just what exactly it is we’re supposed to be doing here!  But at the same time, we know we’ve just reached a different stage in our cross-cultural adjustment.

We really wanted a nice classy restaurant to celebrate our anniversary, we found we are both still pretty healthy at our mid-service check-ups, we hosted site visit for one of the incoming trainees, Kiyomi was hit and moderately (not quite so bad as “seriously,” right?) injured in a traffic accident, and our laundry was stolen. It’s been an eventful few months. But a year in also seems like the right time to do the whole reflective retrospective bit.

Some themes that have emerged:

While we like some things in Cameroon and some people in Cameroon, we don’t really like living in Cameroon. After growing up as military children, we figured we had this living in new places for two years thing down. But military family members aren’t sent to the third world. We’ve learned, we’ve adapted, we’ve found our stride (and lost it again… and found it again! And…darn thing is slippery and small and hides…), but we really don’t like living in the third world. Maybe that seems obvious – developing nations are developing exactly because nobody wants to live in an undeveloped nation – but it was a revelation. We have found things and places and people we like, we have been moderately happy (or at least maintained no more than, as Freud is wonderfully misquoted, an ordinary level of unhappiness). But the idea that we can be really happy anywhere, because we’re flexible and open-minded and adventurous, and also, by the way, we’re trying to do the deeply rewarding work of making our world a better place…yeah, not so much.

One of the reasons we don’t like living in Cameroon is that it’s hard to work here. The process goes something like this: While chatting with a colleague a Great Idea emerges, you are really excited about it and so is your colleague, you begin planning to Implement the Great Idea, and find at your next meeting that your colleague (who shows up late) has not done any of his/her share of the work, excuses ensue or it is strongly implied that actually you were the one who was supposed to take care of X things. You agree to split the remaining duties, calls to your colleague confirm that (in slightly annoyed tones), yes, everything is taken care of, and at your next meeting you discover that, in fact, nothing has been done. Your colleague helpfully suggests ways you can continue to do the work on your own. The Day of the Great Idea arrives and anything still left to your colleague has not been done, no one actually shows up, or those in attendance complain that they’ve come to take part in the Great Idea (the one you’ve busted your hump to Implement to bring Benefit and Improvement to their community), and you haven’t even provided them with food and beer and “gadgets” (pens, notepads, T-shirts, key-chains; what we would call “chachkies” or “give-aways”) and laptops or money, so why are you wasting their time?

We’ve discovered that it’s a real challenge to provide all the motivation not only for yourself, but for everyone involved, by yourself. And it’s even more challenging after being hit/seeing your spouse hit by a motorcycle, and then having laundry stolen off your front porch, to stay motivated.

Not all poverty is created equal. Cameroon is a country rich in natural resources, a population filled with apathy, and a government sitting on considerable wealth. People are hungry because there are no roads to get abundant food from one part of the country to another. People are poorly educated because teachers are government employees and can go months, or even years, without collecting a paycheck. We know people who are forced to ask family to support them, or subsidize themselves by selling market goods or doing other side work in order to feed themselves while they wait for their actual paychecks to eventually arrive – with no promise of when that might actually be. It puts into perspective the continual problem of teachers not showing up for classes. But in general, people here (at least where we have traveled) are not hungry, and are poor only when compared to the West, where cost of living is also considerably higher. There’s a great priority placed on accumulation of material goods as well. Like in America, people may have a new car and large television and host elaborate parties at the expense of being able to pay their bills, but the level of consumerism here hasn’t yet experienced the backlash and resurgence of simple living going on the States.

Things are way better back home than we knew. Being on hold for forty minutes with the cable company is small potatoes – once you get that appointment for someone to come out between 8AM and 7PM, you’re pretty well guaranteed someone will be showing up that day. If you take a taxi, you get that whole taxi to yourself; in other means of public transportation, you always get your own seat, and for long trips, usually with a seatbelt! If you have to wait in line somewhere, at least there is a line to wait in, and not an oppressive crush of humanity on every side of you, pressing toward the front with no order or civility. In a restaurant you’re guaranteed (except in very rare cases) that everything on the menu is available for your order. You won’t wait thirty minutes for someone to take your order, you won’t wait an hour or more for it to come out, you won’t find your waitress asleep when you want the bill. And if she’s surly at any point, you may be able to get something comped if you call the manager, instead of that being standard demeanor. Plus, there’s pizza, and ice cream, and Mexican food, and turkey sandwiches, and sausage, and…

A smile and kind word (without a marriage proposal or request to be brought to “your country,” without even knowing what country that is) can change the tenor of an entire day. It’s sad but true to say that sometimes whether our morning taxi driver is in a friendly mood sets the tone for our whole day. On the other hand, after about six incidents of “hell-lo-ooo,” “whitemanwhiteman,” or “hey, baby,” paired with lots of hissing and lip smacking, that also sets a certain tone for the day, and we dream about walking down the street and being invisible again. But it does remind us to try to smile and say hello to the non-derangey people, and maybe make their day better too.

On expectations, we really didn’t think we had any. But, of course, it’s impossible not to. We expected:

To learn about an awesome and very different culture

To make great host country national (HCN) friends who would share their rich heritage and traditions with us while being interested in learning about ours

To bike to work on a sparsely populated dirt road every day

To work with organizations that had some idea of what they wanted collaboration on work-wise

To glimpse large African fauna now and again and debate how close they were and relative risks of an encounter

To be too busy attending cultural events and learning to make indigenous dishes to possibly have time for movies or computer games from home

To actually speak French

To have a favorite coffee/tea/local hot beverage place to hang out with our HCN friends

To live in a family compound with people who would become like a second family to us

To live in something strongly resembling a mud brick house

Things we didn’t expect:

Trash everywhere, also human waste everywhere with people routinely dropping off on the side of the road even in a city to urinate and/or defecate

People constantly asking us for money, our belongings, marriage, free passage to anywhere but here, etc. while being dressed better than we are

Strange assertions about the US, such as: there is no poverty, our president is from Africa, Rhianna and Jessica Simpson are sisters, there are no black people, everyone has servants, there are no trees – everything is paved, anyone can bring anyone they want to into the country – the only reason we won’t take someone to our country is obviously due to some grave personality flaw, etc.

Level of general drunkenness

General lack of motivation to do any work – another volunteer was decried as a horrible task master for insisting on at least four hour workdays

Napping in the workplace and surliness if interrupted

So many volunteers close by

So much traffic and pollution

Being told with surprising regularity what women don’t know about or can’t do (often things Kiyomi is well informed about and does)

The Big Man culture that prioritizes so much that we detest in our own culture: toady-ism, favoritism, consumerism, chauvinism, insert most any other unpleasant “-ism” here

Constant verbal harassment when walking down the street

“Corruption at every level” really is just that

Pretty consistent water and electricity with constant drips and power surges

Access to cheese and peanut butter but at extraordinary cost

Obsession with all things “Western,” while also adhering to “our culture” (a phrase most often brought out around topics such as women’s equality, girls’ education, homosexuality, and why these things are bad)

The number of men unwittingly wearing women’s clothing

A level of “Christian-speak” sans Christian activity that makes American Christian hypocrisy look like a small problem

To be fair, it isn’t everyone or all the time that we find frustrating or discouraging. We frequently meet kind and generous people who are eager to help us on our way and want us to have a good experience of their country. We’ll never forget the older gentleman who, seeing us looking a bit lost after coming into Yaounde a bit late and through a different agence than usual, said, “My children, where are you going?” We told him, and he told us exactly what to say to the francophone taxi drivers, and how much we should pay. He had us repeat it back to him to be sure we wouldn’t send ourselves to some different part of town than we intended. Then there were the farmers who saw us across a ravine, well off the path we meant to hike, who yelled to the herdsmen grazing their cattle nearby, who came and found us and took us to the trail we wanted, and walked it with us until we were past all the forks that might lead us astray. Recently nearly everyone has been apologetic on behalf of the motorcycle taxi that hit Kiyomi, almost as though it was a reflection on them personally that this happened, and very forgiving of her very rude use of the left hand! One mami gave Kiyomi a package of cookies along with her well-wishes when we passed by her boutique.

So, is there a wrap-up thought?  We don’t really know at this point – we have another year though to figure it out.  For now we’re just looking forward to an impending family visit and, really, when you live in the developing world, family is a very good thing indeed!

Saturday, May 26, 2012

Social Media Activism

Malawi: Social Media Activism Takes Root

Interesting article on how social media is shaping change in Africa.

http://allafrica.com/stories/201204130303.html

Saturday, May 12, 2012

Our tailor

Claudia* is our age, early to mid thirties.  She is strikingly pretty, petite and slender with a ready smile and a sparkle in her dark eyes.  She lives in and works from two rooms in a neat little duplex in a shared compound, off a dirt road on a hill and down a dirt path between planted crops.  The compound shares water.  She puts her stove under a table during work hours, and puts her work under the table when she cooks for her small family.  She has two little girls, Joyful and Grace, 4 and 18 months.  Joyful is exactly as her name would imply, seeming to find utter delight in every breath she takes, constantly laughing and making her sister laugh too.  Grace toddles around, sharing her discoveries of the world with her sister and her mother.  Claudia does not send Joyful, with Grace tied on her little back, to run errands, or send the girls away until their needed for work.  She’s attentive and loving, and they thrive in the utter confidence of her care.  Joyful goes to nursery school, and Claudia always says customers can come by at any time, except when she goes to pick Joyful up from school.  They are delightfully under foot and ready to share their fascination and enjoyment and games with customers who come to drop off or pick up orders.  Claudia sews beautifully, creating unique, made-to-order clothing from the fabrics we bring her.  We try things on in the bedroom, sometimes asking for the fit to be adjusted here or there.  Some volunteers say she is a little expensive.  The little girls love each other and are growing up as sisters, but they don’t have the same parents.  Joyful is Claudia’s granddaughter.  Joyful’s mother is in Claudia’s village, going to school.  Her father acknowledges that she is his child, but he’s young too, and his family does not recognize his daughter.  And children - feeding, clothing, housing, schooling – are the sole responsibility of the mother in this culture.  Fathers give gifts, and it’s nice when they do, but not required.  Now we’ve seen many men carrying babies, holding the hands of small children, in complete adoration of their children, but it’s accepted and even expected here that men will have different families in different villages, and they can just as easily say that those children are not their responsibility.  Claudia makes sure her oldest daughter and her granddaughter go to school.  Claudia is our age.

*Names changed.

Tuesday, May 1, 2012

The Updated Recommended Packing List

A year later, here’s what we brought and wish we’d brought, with a few things taken off the list that we didn’t need.  Happy packing to the new volunteers!


3 tank tops
3 T-shirts
7 shirts
1 sweater
3 skirts
4 pants (1 capri)
bathing suit and rash guard (diving shirt)
jacket/sweatshirt
belt
assorted underthings and socks
hat
sunglasses
umbrella
headlamp
travel towel
hammock
camp mirror
iPod
insect repellent
Benadryl gel
toothbrush and paste
shampoo
soap
deodorant
moisturizer
Japanese washcloth
razor and replacement blades
mask and snorkel
shoe polish kit
dress shoes
flip flops
Vibram five fingers
neti pot
Gatorade powder
kitchen knife
pour over coffee basket and filter
assorted spices
vitamins and prescriptions for three months
sandwich size Ziplock bags
journal
mini travel sized bible
laptop
flash drive
external hard drive
Peace Corps Volunteer paperwork and handbooks
chapstick
bobby pins and hair ties
measuring cup
measuring spoons
travel Scrabble, Uno, and a deck of cards
underwater camera housing
camera
sunscreen
extra soap, shampoo, sunscreen, toothbrushes and make-up (3 months worth)
passport/money belt
can opener
hair cutting scissors
speakers
duct tape
straight razor and strop
shaving brush and cup
combination padlock
hand sanitizer
wash cloths
travel sewing kit
favorite junk food
tea/hot chocolate
calendar
crossword/sudoku books
ear plugs
hashi (also known as chopsticks)
sleep mask